@Lake Pointe Church Richland Campus
have experienced some form of abuse, which has damaged our emotions and
identity in ways that continue to affect us. We have developed incorrect ideas about life and destructive
ways of dealing with the pain. This
is harmful to us emotionally and physically, and damages our relationships
with others. We need healing
from the traumas done to us. We
also need healing from the influence these experiences continue to have in
our present lives.
By actually working through the Christ-centered
12 Steps and 8 Recovery Principles with Jesus Christ as our Higher Power,
we can and will change. We
experience the true peace and serenity we have been seeking when we admit
we are powerless to heal ourselves from the effects of abuse and give our
lives and our wills over to the care of God.
It is only when we become dependent on God for our happiness,
believing that His plan for us includes victory over the abuse, that we
stop living and reliving the past and experience complete and lasting
we learn a new way of living. We
recognize that the persons who abused us are responsible for their abusive
acts and we reject the guilt and shame resulting from those acts.
We look to God and His Word to find our identity and standards for
living. We honestly share our
feelings with God and others to help us identify those areas that need
cleansing and healing. We
accept responsibility for our responses to the abuse. We rely on God as we go through the process of forgiving
ourselves and our perpetrators. This enables us to establish and fully
participate in healthy relationships and share this life-changing message
of us who have experienced life change through this program encourage you
to keep coming back. It
works, by God’s power, if you work it.
We admitted we were powerless over the past and as a result, our
lives have become unmanageable.
We came to believe that God could restore us to wholeness, and
realized His power can always be trusted to bring healing and wholeness in
We made a decision to turn our wills and our lives over to the care
of God, realizing we have not always understood His unconditional love.
We chose to
loves us, is worthy of trust, and will help us understand Him as we seek
We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves,
realizing all wrongs can be forgiven and renouncing the lie that the abuse
was our fault.
We admitted to God, to
ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of the wrongs in
our lives, including those acts perpetrated against us as
By accepting God’s cleansing, we renounced our shame and were
entirely ready to have God remove all our distortions and defects of
We humbly asked Him to remove all our shortcomings, including our
guilt. We released our fear
and submitted to Him.
We made a list of all persons who had harmed us and became willing
to seek God’s help in forgiving them, as well as forgiving ourselves.
We realized we have also harmed others and became willing to make amends to them.
We extended forgiveness to ourselves and to those who have harmed
us, realizing this is an attitude of the heart, not always confrontation.
We made direct amends to those we had harmed, except when to do so
would injure them or others.
We continued to take personal inventory as new memories and issues
surfaced. We continued to
renounce our shame and guilt, but when we were wrong, we
promptly admitted it.
We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious
contact with God and our understanding of His character, praying only for
knowledge of His truth
in our lives, His will for us and the power to carry that out.
Having had a spiritual awakening as we accepted God’s love and
healing through these steps, we tried to carry this message of hope to
others and to practice these
principles in all our affairs, claiming God’s promise of restoration and
wholeness as new memories and issues surfaced.
of Survivors of Abuse
of Abuse often…
identify themselves as victims of abuse.
isolated, depressed, worthless, shameful and helpless to change.
with negative feelings about God.
themselves as responsible for the abuse.
being abused in the past somehow affects present circumstances.
self-control; defeated in areas of compulsive behaviors.
trouble with authority figures.
difficulty trusting others or place unwarranted trust in unsafe
preoccupied with thoughts of what it means to have a “normal”
relationship with others: friends, family, the opposite sex.
healthy sexual identity.
sexually inappropriate ways.
their self-identity—“Who am I?”
whether life has a purpose or is worth living.
home” in crisis situations
with perfectionism or “all or nothing thinking”.
fantasize about a better life.